After reading this post you all know how seriously I have taken
my promise to live the best damn life that I could. I don’t just get to live in
memory of Evan but also to create memories of my own with people I care about.
For my 16th birthday Evan wanted to take my skydiving. It was always
a dream of his and what better time to do it than the present (for a present),
right? I thought it was a fantastic idea and begged my parents to sign for me.
Surprise, surprise, they wouldn’t. What great parents they are! (I’m not being
sarcastic there, I really feel like that was a great decision.) Then came the
years of putting it off – first I would do it when I turned 18, then it was
turning 21, then it was college graduation, then it was a moving away
celebration. I had plenty of reasons to go but the excuses behind them were
holding me back. If I’m honest, the fear of getting into a small plane was
holding me on the ground – and tight. (Since the accident anyone who has held
my hand in an airplane or has had to suffer through me nagging for you to text
me as soon as you land will understand a tiny bit of my fear.)
So what made me decide to want to do it this time? Well,
first, it’s on my bucket list. And I really love crossing things off lists.
Second, I finished graduate school and got a job. That’s a reason to celebrate.
Third, I have been single for officially one year straight and love the full
life I live. Being happy and content is never a good enough reason for being
stagnant and settling. I needed to do this. It was time to do it. For Evan. For
me.
I made a reservation, laid down a deposit, kept my mouth
shut, didn’t tell my parents, and waited patiently to jump out of an airplane.
I was going skydiving! I was so focused on work that before I knew it the day
had arrived and I was in Orange, VA pulling into a small airport.
Then I was signing and initialing more times than I can
count and more words than I can remember but I know one thing – it said I could
die!
I went through a roller coaster of emotions while I was
waiting and had a great friend willing to put up with me. One of the most
defining moments of the trip was when we were suited up waiting for our final
harness and I started crying. I was looking at the tiny planes and thinking of
how brave I needed to be. I told Tom in that moment I could feel Evan with me
which made me cry even more. He asked what that felt like and my automatic
response was “safe.” I was about to jump 13,500 feet out of an airplane to free
fall at 120 miles per hour for 55 seconds and all I could feel was safe. It
felt right. I was in exactly where I needed to be with one friend smiling next to
me and another smiling down on me. Then I got really pumped up! I was jumping
around, clapping my hands, swinging my arms. My nervous energy turned into just
plain energy!
Of course it was perfect timing for the clouds to roll in and
make us wait two hours. We were just sitting around, pacing around, moping around. So we grabbed the chance to eat at a local gas station for
lunch. (It was the biggest let down!... I mean the waiting was a let down, I didn't have high hopes the gas station.)
As we were taking the last bite, we got the call. The clouds
had cleared and we were on deck to be the next flight out! With a mad dash back
to the airport there was no time to be nervous or brave. I just needed to
survive now. Take off was scary for me but once we made it into the air I was
at peace and in the zone.
Words can hardly describe the exhilaration that comes with
skydiving out of an aircraft. I’m not even sure I can try.
After free falling I deployed the parachute at 6000 feet and
we floated down so serenely. I told Chris, my instructor (who was the most
wonderful man), that I felt like I visited Heaven today. And he said, “In a way
you did, I know your friend is with you and is very proud.” After landing
safely with two feet on the ground and being unharnessed from Chris I turned
right around to give him a huge hug. Tom watched me land from the sky and I was
able to watch him land from the ground each within a minute of the other but
what was really amazing is that the plane that took up us landed long before we
hit the ground. In fact, I watched the plane I jumped out of land and safely
too! I conquered a huge fear that day. I’m sure I still won’t like it when my
loved ones fly, especially in small planes, but I know that by looking for
accidents and reasons to be scared I still can’t prevent them from
happening. Here is the first picture we took after landing.
On the other side of fear is freedom. I need to look more
for the moments I can reign in my fear and feel Evan’s safe presence so I can
continue doing the things that scare me. Life scares me but this adventure is
so worth it! I would say the exact same thing about skydiving too!